“When I look back upon my life, it’s always with a sense of shame. I’ve always been the one to blame.”
Pet Shop Boys, It’s a Sin
Sometimes a phrase will turn on me as the years pass.
When I was younger and less secure, I thought I was deficient in many ways. I thought I was the reason for many things going wrong. I thought the blame could usually rest on me. I had been the one to blame.
As I grew older, I became more confident, but more judgmental. I was selfish, overly secure and had no problem blaming others for (what I considered) their inadequacies. I had been the one to blame (others).
Thank god I grew more.